"It is significant that precisely in and through prayer, man comes to discover in a very simple and yet profound way his own unique subjectivity: in prayer the human 'I' more easily perceives the depth of what it means to be a person."
-Letter to Families, 4
The pope reflects his personalist philosophy here. In the tradition of the personalist philosophers of the 20th century, he points to the I-thou relationship, whereby one person (the 'I') becomes more self-aware the more deeply they enter into a relationship with the other. For instance, if I stand alone by myself, I may be self-aware, but it doesn't seem like anything special. When, however, I am in relation to another person, I begin to realize that I have an inner life that is unapproachable to the other, and that they too have that inner life, that subjectivity. The pope is making the point that this is especially true in the relationship between God and man, where there is far less in common, and we can only be filled with awe over how entirely "other" God is. Prayer makes us aware of God's otherness, that aspect of Him which cannot be approached and is completely intangible, shrouded in mystery (and thankfully, that part of Himself which He has graciously chosen to reveal to us). In a certain paradoxical sense, the closer we get to God, the farther we may see ourselves from Him. It is easy for a person beginning the spiritual journey to see God on one's own level, but as the relationship develops, one finds God infinitely beyond, and yet intimately close. I digress...
Pope John Paul II extends this subjectivity to the family. As the Trinity is one family (analogously), so the human family is a distinct subjective unit. Prayer within the family helps the family together to grow in awareness of its subjectivity with regard to God. I would speculate that the individual members of the family, all aware of this subjectivity of the family, would then grow closer amongst themselves, as if aware of the solidarity they have as one unit in relation to God. So prayer truly brings families together. Thus the pope continues:
"This subjectivity finds its first and fundamental confirmation, and is strengthened, precisely when the members of the family meet in the common invocation: 'Our Father.' Prayer increases the strength and spiritual unity of the family, helping the family to partake of God's own 'strength.'"
-Letter to Families, 4
Pope John Paul II contrasts this unity of the family in prayer with the forces at work in the world to break down the family:
"Unfortunately various programmes backed by very powerful resources nowadays seem to aim at the breakdown of the family. At times it appears that concerted efforts are being made to present as 'normal' and attractive, and even to glamourize, situations which are in fact 'irregular.' Indeed, they contradict 'the truth and love' which should inspire and guide relationships between men and women, thus causing tensions and divisions in families, with grave consequences particularly for children. The moral conscience becomes darkened; what is true, good and beautiful is deformed; and freedom is replaced by what is actually enslavement."
-Letter to Families, 5
Naturally, at the heart of these programs (keep in mind that the letter is translated into the British usage of the English language, thus it reads "programmes") is an attack on prayer, and in order to achieve that, an attack on faith, while at the same time distracting the family with things considered "more worthy" of the family's time (how often as a youth minister I have found myself competing with soccer games!). It is vital for the modern family to shut off the television and pray, but this is hard to bring about even in one individual (I admit that I struggle with it!), let alone a family. I am convinced that we need to return, in some spiritual sense, to the Catholic ghettos that once existed. I'm not saying that the Catholic family should be poor and unable to afford shelter, medical care, or the like. What I am saying, however, is that the Catholic family should be spiritually poor, giving, and especially filled with prayer. Only then will we see change for the better in our Church, our society, and our world.
His Servant and Yours,
Micah Murphy
